*Advice* Beware for Conversations with friends you met on a travel
Today, I would like to write about 'basic advice' that we should be careful of when we meet friends who have met in overseas travel. The motivation for writing this story is that one of my neighbors told me that he had made the person embarrassed by talking to someone else. For example, if our students go on a trip to Europe, there will definitely be a chance to meet new foreign friends on the road. Whether we meet at a hotel, in a hostel, in a travel destination, or asked taking a photo for you, we are facing every moments when we need to communicate smoothly with anyone. But the problem is that the cultures of all countries are not the same as yours. So, it seems to somewhat natural to make a mistake when you talk, but it is better do not make mistake, I wrote down the things that you should not do most.
1. Take pride in your country culture, is good. But do not force others, in other culture
There are so many people who can not do this. For example, religion is the same. We need to respect the background of others so that our culture can be respected. We have no right to determines, distinguish superiority.
2. Religion and politics are very personal and controversial subjects
Especially in Korea, talking about politics or religion in front of many people is a shortcut to fighting. So it maybe good for your conversation to not talk about this matter deeply. Talking about the history of the world, politics, or religion is fine, of course, but be careful about the story of other countries' major person doing good or not, and why you think other religion is wrong, and so on. That is not a debate, only simple blame. I saw someone talking this matter at the hostel when I traveled, it was a pouring cold water on party.
3. Don't swear in public
There are a lot of people who think that it is not too obvious. This is one of the world's common norms. Some people, however, have seen scenes where foreign language dramas and movies are used, familiar words are being used, and when talking to a foreign friend or talking about it in a way that he or she does not know about it, it can be a great example for some people. In fact, it is the worst word choice that is almost never appropriate for most people, especially in front of friends who have just been on a trip. So, you should never swear at all. This behavior is easy way the fight on a trip and when that situation is happened, you can banished yourself at that place in the worst. Let's use beautiful languages as much as possible.
4. A few words of praise work wonders (?!)
Some friends around me, every time when they see me and greetings with, "You are getting skinny! Wonderful!" or, "I envy you because you are very skinny!" I do not feel that badly, because I'm skinny and it is good praise between Korean girls (in old friends). But this tendency sometimes make rude situation. People around me, I can see that people who gives sincere advice to beautiful glamorous figured person, "Take your time, eating fast is the way to getting fat, I read at the newspaper toady." at the every meal. In additional, sometimes they say "You will be much prettier if you lost some weight!". You would be surprised, but it is common conversation in around me. Just our culture, desire to become a slim... We already know it is a great example to talk about the appearance of the person, "You have a beautiful eyes!", or "I love your hair." Remember, excessive interference with appearance is not praise.
In fact, there are a lot of things to be careful for when we talk with people besides the above four cases. We should go abroad and reduce the amount of misunderstandings caused by the mistake in say. It is not to say you must fit in every time to every people, but it is for a good conversation and relationship with foreign friends who first met. It is up to our usual conduct to know where to go and what to say and what should not be done with our common sense. So I will always have to be careful about my talking too. It would be nice to think of it as a small effort to make a pleasant trip.
1. Take pride in your country culture, is good. But do not force others, in other culture
There are so many people who can not do this. For example, religion is the same. We need to respect the background of others so that our culture can be respected. We have no right to determines, distinguish superiority.
2. Religion and politics are very personal and controversial subjects
Especially in Korea, talking about politics or religion in front of many people is a shortcut to fighting. So it maybe good for your conversation to not talk about this matter deeply. Talking about the history of the world, politics, or religion is fine, of course, but be careful about the story of other countries' major person doing good or not, and why you think other religion is wrong, and so on. That is not a debate, only simple blame. I saw someone talking this matter at the hostel when I traveled, it was a pouring cold water on party.
3. Don't swear in public
There are a lot of people who think that it is not too obvious. This is one of the world's common norms. Some people, however, have seen scenes where foreign language dramas and movies are used, familiar words are being used, and when talking to a foreign friend or talking about it in a way that he or she does not know about it, it can be a great example for some people. In fact, it is the worst word choice that is almost never appropriate for most people, especially in front of friends who have just been on a trip. So, you should never swear at all. This behavior is easy way the fight on a trip and when that situation is happened, you can banished yourself at that place in the worst. Let's use beautiful languages as much as possible.
4. A few words of praise work wonders (?!)
Some friends around me, every time when they see me and greetings with, "You are getting skinny! Wonderful!" or, "I envy you because you are very skinny!" I do not feel that badly, because I'm skinny and it is good praise between Korean girls (in old friends). But this tendency sometimes make rude situation. People around me, I can see that people who gives sincere advice to beautiful glamorous figured person, "Take your time, eating fast is the way to getting fat, I read at the newspaper toady." at the every meal. In additional, sometimes they say "You will be much prettier if you lost some weight!". You would be surprised, but it is common conversation in around me. Just our culture, desire to become a slim... We already know it is a great example to talk about the appearance of the person, "You have a beautiful eyes!", or "I love your hair." Remember, excessive interference with appearance is not praise.
In fact, there are a lot of things to be careful for when we talk with people besides the above four cases. We should go abroad and reduce the amount of misunderstandings caused by the mistake in say. It is not to say you must fit in every time to every people, but it is for a good conversation and relationship with foreign friends who first met. It is up to our usual conduct to know where to go and what to say and what should not be done with our common sense. So I will always have to be careful about my talking too. It would be nice to think of it as a small effort to make a pleasant trip.
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